Fathering in the Now

Musings on parenting and presence

Category: parenting

My daughter at play: Art or slip-n-slide, or both?

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No word for this kind of love

It was a sunny winter day the first time I saw Lilyana swimming free under the water. The small pool at our Y has south-facing windows that let in afternoon sun and rays shine through the glass and white-blue concrete of the pool. I’d finally remembered to put on the swim goggles we’d bought months ago, and sticking my head under I watched as she wriggled and kicked as she figured out how to make her four year old body move downwards in a predictable way.

English has no word for the instantaneous combination of joy, delight, caring, watchfulness for threats real (water up the nose) and imagined, seeing backwards in time to all our earlier water experiences, looking forward to summers at the lake, going further back to my memories of growing up in the water, pride for all she can do, hopes that this learning and growing and play will go on and on through our lives, and awe. So much awe and gratitude that I get to be so lucky as to share this moment. Then she comes up, and I can already feel the Duchenne crinkles around my eyes and a massive grin on my face, and our eyes meet and she’s grinning too and we’re both glowing with this new.

Learning all the time, part 2 (glitter math edition)

Lilyana got a bunch of glitter tubes yesterday. We drilled holes in a board so the tubes wouldn’t fall over, and on her own Lil started doing math problems.

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Memory in the body

Took my blood pressure twice the other day: First time was a little high, before the second I brought the felt sense of my sleeping daughter to mind and my BP dropped 20 points.

Learning all the time

From the little-brains-are-knowledge-sponges-department:

Lilyana (age 4): Daddy, when does Halley’s Comet come back?
Me: 2061.
Lilyana: That’s a short period comet, it doesn’t come from the Oort Cloud!

Lilyana wisdom

“People are women. Men are grownup boys.” -8/24/11

My new style of yoga

Practicing “vicarious yoga” these days: Watching my wife practice while I do the ironing.

There are two…

There are two kinds of people: those who feel criminal for leaving their sleeping child to go to work, and those who don’t get it.

Acronym of the Day: PSL

Acronym of the Day: PSL

Parental Sign Language: The combination of sign language, charades, and mime used by parents so as not to wake a sleeping child.

Moments in time

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